I am sure that you must have come across scores of parenting articles talking about the do’s and don’ts of parenting. This blog is not directed towards what you should or shouldn’t do as a parent. Rather it is a personal experience that I wish to share with my readers. The aim is to educate you all with the different experiences a parent goes through right from the time a child is born to the time they become teenagers.
I have two daughters aged 14 years and 4 years. Yes I know the age gap is huge, but well, that’s why I am recounting my experiences! As a mother to both, a teenager and a toddler can be taxing and tiring, but it can also be rewarding in unimagined ways. When the little one makes sure she doesn’t disturb me while I am working, melts my heart or when my elder one tells her friends that my mother is ‘cool’ I feel happy that she is accepting of me. While many of you may think it is absurd to seek validation from you kids, but believe me it feels good and it is definitely a necessity.
One of the difficult aspects of raising two kids is making sure you maintain the balance. You don’t neglect your duties towards one child simply because the other one needs more attention due to their age or any other criteria. I have noticed how my teenage daughter feels left out or underappreciated when I am unable to give her full attention. Even if I try to compensate at a later time, the damage is done and there is little I can do to convince her that she is as much important to me as the little one. This, I have noticed creates a kind of distance between the parent and the child which becomes difficult to fill. Thus, rather than filling those gaps with materialistic things, it is important to try and not let those gaps form in the first place.
Ending this blog, I would simply like to state that parenting is a difficult road, but also very rewarding. At the end of the day when they fall asleep, you thank your stars for having them in your life. The kind of happiness kids bring to our lives is unparalleled and I can only hope it remains that way!
“At the end of the day, the most overwhelming key to a child’s success is the positive involvement of parents.” -Jane D. Hull